Personal Accounts

One night I was really drunk on the bus home from a gig. So drunk I got off the wrong stop and was utterly confused until I saw my sober ‘mate’. I was relieved when he offered to take me home so I’d be safe. I don’t know how it started (he was not someone I would do) but the next thing I know he’s in my room and we’re having sex and he was telling me he liked ‘rough sex’ and I was struggling to stop that….

Ugh. The last one makes me well up even now.

Personal Accounts

I fell asleep in the back of my van at a festival, next to a guy I liked. I was woken up by him kissing and grabbing me. He wouldn’t respond to my repeatedly asking him why he was being so pushy. Turned out it was because he wasn’t the guy I’d fallen asleep next, it was some creepy fucker who’d crawled into my van without my knowledge or consent. Everyone saw me freaking out at him as I kicked him out of my van, had no excuse for being in there, he never denied touching me but still he had guys rush up and defend him. There was never any consequences for him.

Personal Accounts

Walking through the crowd at The Feeding of the 5000 gig, someone grabbed my crotch from behind- I spun round immediately shouting, and demanded to know which one of three guys had done it- they all claimed innocent and no-one said a word. Security told me it wasn’t really worth doing anything because the gig was nearly over and all they could do was kick whoever it was out.

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Don’t trick underage girls into having sex with you by getting them drunk. This happened to me when I was 15 by an older punk guy in his early 20s. He gave me beer until I didn’t know what was going on then he had sex with me. This is statutory rape. You are a pedophile. You are look at a mandatory minimum prison sentence of 10 years (with up to a maximum of 20 years)

Personal Accounts

At the first proper punk gig I went to every time I went in the pit someone groped me. Grabbing my boobs or my fanny, trying to stick their fingers in as far as they could. Despite the music being great, I left early that night. I was 14 yrs old.

The fight for gender equality isn’t achievable unless we all work together.

Related Links, Related Reading

The following articles look at men and feminism, often from the male perspective.

Dear White, Straight, Cisgender, Man People: You Are Privileged

On Being White – Louis CK

The men who help fight back against everyday sexism

10 Ways Men Can Combat Sexist Entitlement in Public

Not All Men: A Brief History of Every Dude’s Favorite Argument

35 Practical Tools for Men to Further Feminist Revolution

Men Explain Things to Me by Rebecca Solnit: review. Silencing women is a civil rights issue.

Joseph Gordon-Levitt on why he’s a feminist

Robert Webb: Roll up, roll up, to see a man talking about feminism. What could possibly go wrong?

Big Boys Don’t Cry: Crimes Against Masculinity

“Why do all old statues have such small penises?” (NSFW)

variations on “not all men”

How movies teach manhood – video

Think It’s #NotAllMen? These 4 Facts Prove You’re Just Plain Wrong

 

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Related Reading

Here’s where we list links to stuff we think you might be interested in. Some of it’s punk stuff, some of its on feminism / gender equality,  some on positive sexual health, some might even cover all those topics and some might not cover any but its still something we think you might be interested in so its here too.

We don’t necessarily agree with everything in every article!! Obviously there’s no way every member will have read every article before its been posted here so don’t hold the contents of the article to be the beliefs of the group. If there is anything you like or don’t like in anything we’ve posted then please leave a comment and we’ll discuss it with you.

Happy reading!!